Yesterday, I drove 777.7 miles from Woodland, CA to Tempe, AZ. I lived in Northern California for 1 year & 11 months, and now I get to come to my fav place and work on my fav campus with my fav people! On my drive, I listened to 2 audio books: Mindy Kaling’s Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? (And Other Concerns) and Tina Fey’s Bossypants. (Yes, I realize these are basically the same book.)
In Mindy’s book, she mentions something called the “Irish Exit”- when you leave a party and don’t tell anyone. I had no idea this was a practice with a NAME! I am somewhat notorious for Irish Exits. In true Katie Cannon fashion, I do not limit my self just to parties. I did it at my summer job a few times- I just didn’t really tell anyone it was my last day except the people who needed to know. When I moved to CA, it was such a whirlwind I just…barely said goodbye to anyone. When people asked me when I was moving, I would kind of laugh and give a vague answer. It was so bad- people came to my house and demanded to say goodbye.
It’s a weird practice. Leaving CA, I realized how messed up it is. Part of it is fear of the awkward. Another part is thinking “Well I am I really worth saying ‘goodbye’ too?” or “Was I a good friend? Do you think we’re friends? Because I do but if you don’t then this is weird” or “Does anyone care that I’m leaving?” This is messed up thinking, folks.
This time- I said goodbye. The Klier’s threw me a party, and people actually came! My church prayed for me so hard that I felt like I needed a nap afterwards. I got to say goodbye to people. I even said goodbye to the dudes at my favorite Dutch Bros. I was addicted to saying goodbye. Was it kind of awkward sometimes? Sure. Was it totally worth it to “leave well”? YES YES YES&AMEN! Sometimes it’s hard to hear that people care about you. Once I got over that, it was one of my most encouraging weeks…ever!Full of presents & meaningful conversation & tears.
It’s still debatable if I will continue to use this tactic at parties. I like to go to bed early and avoid 20 minute goodbyes when I’m ready to go to sleep.
So goodbye, dear readers, Thank you SO much for reading my blog! I hope we can see each other again when I find something weird on the internet and post again. BYE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!